Category: sexuality

• What I learned from an asexual stranger

  

  Wisdom from an asexual stranger.

  Brandon Darrell Lane Flanery

  March 7, 2023

  Breadcrumbs, existentialism, sexuality

  ace, asexual, connection, dating, LGBTQ, relationships

• Pain Revisited

  

  In the wake of Colorado Springs’s Club Q shooting, I’m reminded of the power of pain.

  Brandon Darrell Lane Flanery

  December 6, 2022

  LGBTQ, politics, sexuality

  club q, Colorado, colorado springs, gay, lesbian, LGBTQ, mass shooting, queer

• Untamed — Glennon Doyle Inspiring My Gay Heart

  

  Glennon Doyle writes powerfully about the “untaming” of women, and as a gay man, I find powerful resonance.

  Brandon Darrell Lane Flanery

  January 13, 2022

  homosexuality, LGBTQ, sexuality

  coming of age, coming out, gay, Glennon Doyle, Individuality, lesbian, LGBTQ, Pride, queer, women

• To those who tried…

  

  Often we love inspirational quotes about getting back up and trying. But when we’ve deeply tried and failed, how can we have hope? Here are some thoughts on the matter.

  Brandon Darrell Lane Flanery

  December 2, 2021

  Psychology/Mental Health, sexuality, theology

  christianity, church, exvangelical, faith, fear, gay, Gay Christian, God, inspirational, journal, LGBTQ, motivational, personal, philosophy, postevangelical, queer Christian, religion, spirituality, theology, trusting god, writer

• On Meaning, Monogamy, and Marx

  

  On why I’ve chosen monogamy as a gay man.

  Brandon Darrell Lane Flanery

  November 10, 2021

  Christianity, homosexuality, LGBTQ, Psychology/Mental Health, sexuality, theology

  deconstruction, ethics, exvangelical, Gay Christian, Gay loneliness, homosexuality, lgbt, LGBTQ, lgbtq christian, lonely gay, love, mental health, monogamy, philosophy, polyamory, post-Christian, postvangelical, Progressive Christianity, Progressive theology, psychology, queer Christian, queer relationships, relationships, sex, sexual ethic, sexuality, the velvet rage, theology

• God in the Devil

  

  In a show about the Devil and a Grindr meet up, I encountered God’s faithfulness and beautiful love. God is in it all, including the things we deem “evil.”

  Brandon Darrell Lane Flanery

  March 9, 2021

  Christianity, homosexuality, LGBTQ, sexuality, theology

  christianity, God, grindr, hell, Jesus, Lucifer, Netflix, popculture, sexuality, spirituality

• LGBTQ+ Oppression: Oh Let Me Count the Ways

  

  After legislation that gives us marriage rights and protection against work-place discrimination, how is the LGBTQ+ community oppressed in the United States?

  Brandon Darrell Lane Flanery

  November 20, 2020

  Christianity, homosexuality, LGBTQ, sexuality, theology

  Christian, faith, faithfullylgbtq, gay, Gay Christian, gaychristian, lgbt, LGBTQ, oppression, privilege, queer, social advocacy, theology

• A Letter to My Younger Self

  

  At the age of 30, I write a letter to my younger self with advice on how to navigate being gay and Christian.

  Brandon Darrell Lane Flanery

  July 9, 2020

  Christianity, homosexuality, LGBTQ, sexuality, theology

  Christian, christianity, gay, Gay Christian, Jesus, Jesus Christ, journal, letter, letter to gay people, LGBTQ, lgbtq christian, love, queer, the Bible, therapy, tips for being gay, tips for being queer, writing

• Reneging on My Six… Maybe

  

  A while back, I wrote I was a counter-phobic, sexual six. If you’re not an enneagram nerd like myself, no, I’m not having sex with six people. In short, a sexual six is scared and presents courageous to prove to themself and others they’re able to beat anything. I promise I’m getting to sappy, personal…

  Brandon Darrell Lane Flanery

  November 27, 2019

  Christianity, homosexuality, LGBTQ, sexuality, theology

  Another Way, bi, Bible, born this way, California, candid, Christian, christianity, church, Colorado, enneagram four, enneagram six, faith, fear, friends, gay, Gay Christian, gay criticism, Gay loneliness, gay relationships, GLBT, God, homosexuality, hopes and dreams, Jesus, John Eldridge, journal, lesbian, lgbt, LGBTQ, lonely gay, manhood, masculinity, memoir, micro memoir, morality, nature vs nuture, personal, personal story, philosophy, politics enneagram, queer, relationships, rescue, scared of church, sex, sexuality, sin, taboo, the causes of homosexuality, thoughts, travel, traveling, trusting god, what causes homosexuality, what does God think of homosexuality, what God thinks of homosexuality, world view

• Purpose and the Politician

  

  A recent trip to Texas and a Netflix original show trigger thoughts of purpose and destiny.

  Brandon Darrell Lane Flanery

  November 25, 2019

  Christianity, homosexuality, LGBTQ, sexuality, theology

  Another Way, bi, Bible, Christian, christianity, church, Dallas, faith, fear, fear of god, gay, Gay Christian, gay ministry, gay relationships, GLBT, God, homosexuality, hope, hopes and dreams, Jesus, Jesus and Christians, Jesus and gays, Jesus Christ, lesbian, lgbt, LGBTQ, memoir, ministry, morality, Netflix, pain, personal, personal story, philosophy, politics, queer, relationships, scared of church, sexuality, Texas, the Politician, travel, traveling, trust, trusting god, wedding, weddings, what causes homosexuality, what does God think of homosexuality, what God thinks of homosexuality